Before I begin, let me make it clear that I do not by any means consider myself an authority on this issue. However, I do believe that the Bible, which has authority over the life of all Christians, answers all of the essential questions about homosexuality that are often misunderstood or simply ignored altogether. Because of the growing prominence of homosexuality in our culture, I believe this is something we must confront and understand biblically rather than make assumptions and act according to our limited knowledge. Let us first hear what the Bible says about homosexuality in all its manifestations. Then, and only then, can we understand how we are to respond.
We live in a day when homosexuality as way of life has progressed beyond shocking and unnatural to a level of normality and acceptability. Gay pride movements have, in essence, accomplished all that they set out to do. Though many yet seek legal treatment equal to that of heterosexuals in the arena of marriage, they have long-since attained social equality and acceptance. The media has glorified the homosexual to a place of honor. They tell us that it’s good for people to be different in this way, and the world at large has believed and adjusted its views as necessary. Entire church denominations have associated themselves with the world on this issue and therefore rejected the command of Romans 12:2 to “not be conformed to this world.” And indeed we must see that to exalt homosexuality as good and right is to conform to the world.
To see this, we must understand how God feels about homosexuality, and I believe this can be done in two major points. The first is obviously and simply that God created man and woman to be together. In Genesis 2 we read the account of God fashioning Eve specifically to be Adam’s helper and companion. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). Companionship between a man and a woman was part of God’s perfect plan. It was not until sin entered the world that there was any challenge made to this plan. We, as Christians, must live with the mentality of God’s perfect plan rather than the mentality of sinful worldliness from which we have been freed.
The second point we must see is that God sees homosexuality as completely sinful, whether it be the desire or the act. “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their blood-guiltiness is upon them” (Lev. 20:13). I believe that we can apply Matthew 5:28 to lust of any kind and say that any man who looks at another man with lust for him, or any woman who looks at another woman with lust for her, has already committed homosexuality in his or her heart. When Christ came to preach His Gospel, He set a higher standard than the standard of the Law. The good news is that He fulfilled not only the old Law, but His own commands to be pure in both heart and deed. The good news is that “He made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him” (2 Cor. 5:21). The good news is the message of the Cross: that our sins have been forgiven and that we may pursue holiness.
The big debate is often whether homosexuality is a condition one may be born with, or whether it develops over time. I offer to you the view that within every human is the possibility to be tempted toward homosexuality. As David says in the Psalms, “Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother conceived me” (Psm. 51:5). If we believe the Bible that sin dwells in us from birth and that all people are “of flesh, sold into bondage to sin” (Rom. 7:14), and that “no temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man” (1 Cor. 10:13), we conclude that the ability to sin in every kind of way is ever-present in our flesh. This does not mean that every person
will be faced with every kind of temptation, but that homosexuality is sin the same as “unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil… envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice… gossip, slander, hating God, insolence, arrogance, boastfulness, invention of evil, disobedience to parents” etc. (Rom. 1:29-30). Homosexuality is not in some other category of sin that only applies to the people who struggle with it.
The next logical question then becomes: Why do some people experience homosexual attractions and others do not? If this sin is common to man, why do not all people, believers and unbelievers alike, have to face this challenge? While there is certainly evidence that points to childhood development as influential in the later process of developing sexuality, I believe that it is ultimately in God’s hands as to who will battle such temptations. Trusting the sovereignty of God is critical when dealing with sin. We may similarly ask: “God, why does this person struggle with lying when this other does not?” or “God, why does this person battle impatience when this other does not?” We look again to 1 Corinthians where Paul writes, “God is faithful; [He] will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able” (1 Cor. 10:13). This implies that He
will allow us to be tempted at a level we are able to endure. Paul does
not say that God is the one who tempts us, but that He allows us to be tempted. Why? So that our faith “may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed” (1 Pet. 1:7). So that we might grow in godliness, and so that Christ might ultimately be glorified in our bodies. God allows some people to be tempted with greed, some with arrogance, and others with homosexuality, and every other kind of sin. Certainly we cannot understand how He, in perfect wisdom, decides who is to experience which sorts of temptation.
What, then, of Christian men and women who find themselves faced with temptation toward homosexuality that they know is sinful, but that they are unable to rid themselves of? It is an important question, and one we must consider once again in light of the truth of the Bible. I have heard it said that anyone who experiences homosexual temptations has never truly received salvation, and I reject any such statement as utterly untrue. Remember that the temptation to homosexuality is no different than the temptation to any other kind of sin, and we have just seen that God allows all Christians to experience temptation. Here we must again consider the sovereignty of God, but we must do so carefully. Because although we have said that it is within God’s allowance, for His purposes both known and unknown, that someone may struggle with homosexuality, we must also say that it is
always God’s will for the one who faces this struggle to pursue change and pray for healing. Remember that God perfectly designed for man to be with a woman. Unless otherwise made very clear by God, God’s plan for
every man is to be married to a woman, and
every woman to a man. As this is His design, surely those who face this struggle may believe that He will make it possible.
We know “this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality” (1 Thess. 4:3), and we can trust that God will strengthen believers to resist the act of sexual immorality. It is far more difficult, however, to believe that God will entirely remove the desires of homosexuality from someone’s life. For the man attracted to women, the battle of lust is a twisted form of the God-given desire for a woman in marriage; but for the man attracted to men, there is no pure form of his or her sexual attraction to hope for in the future. However, there is the very real hope of change; it is a change that willpower alone cannot accomplish. Praise God that He promises “the things that are impossible with people are possible with God” (Luke 18:27). Again I say that, outside of the gift of celibacy, it is
always the will of God for men and women who struggle with homosexuality to pursue change and pursue marriage, and to trust above all in the healing power of Jesus Christ.
And lastly, how shall we respond? The only appropriate response is to love. As Paul prays: “may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all people” (1 Thess 3:12). Loving
all people includes loving believers and unbelievers alike who deal with homosexuality. Witness to, in love, the unbeliever; encourage, in love, the believer. Let it never be that a Christian is rejected by others in the body of Christ because of his personal struggle with sin, regardless of what sin it may be. Let it rather be said that the church is a place where homosexuals find the truth of redemption, and the hope of change. Let the church and every Christian therein demonstrate the love of Christ to all those whom God has allowed to be tempted in this way.